How to Help Kids Overcome Back-to-School Anxiety

A new school year can spark worries for kids of all ages: new teachers, unfamiliar classmates, challenging subjects, or simply making the big transition from summer’s freedom. As a parent, you can guide your child through these nerves and set them up for a confident, positive start. Here’s how:

1. Acknowledge and Listen to Their Worries

·       Take your child’s concerns seriously; don’t dismiss them with “You’ll be fine!” Instead, listen carefully and validate their feelings. Let them know it’s normal to feel nervous, and that many classmates probably feel the same way.

·       If your child shares specific worries (“What if I get lost?”), work together to brainstorm solutions, or role-play how they might handle tricky situations. This empowers them to feel more capable.

2. Ease Into School-Year Routines

·       Start gradually shifting bedtime and wake-up times at least a week before classes begin. Reinstate morning and evening routines so the first day won’t feel like a shock.

·       Practice the school-day routine: packing their bag, laying out clothes, and even walking or driving the school route. If possible, visit the school or attend an open house to make the unfamiliar more comfortable.

3. Get Specific and Problem-Solve Together

·       Invite your child to share what exactly makes them anxious. Is it a new classroom, making friends, or handling schoolwork? Break each worry into smaller steps and come up with coping strategies—a “fear ladder” for conquering anxiety one level at a time (for example, first learn their classroom location, then say hi to a new student, and so on).

·       For younger children, practice opening locks if lockers are a concern, or meet up with a new classmate for a playdate before school starts.

4. Model Calm and Confidence

·       Children are quick to mirror your emotions. Manage your own stress, and model calm behavior, even if you’re feeling anxious about the new year.

·       Show your child healthy coping skills, like deep breathing, positive self-talk, or taking a short break if they feel overwhelmed.

·       Share your own experiences—remind them that everyone gets nervous, even adults, and talk about how you manage your own worries.

5. Highlight Positives and Boost Confidence

·       Remind your child of good memories from school in the past—favorite teachers, fun projects, or lunchtime with friends.

·       Build excitement by letting them pick out school supplies or choose a new accessory for the year ahead. Give them choices in preparing for the first day, like planning breakfast or what to wear.

·       Point out their strengths and traits, and praise brave or positive behaviors, no matter how small.

6. Watch for Signs of Excessive Anxiety

·       Typical back-to-school jitters usually fade within the first few weeks. But if your child is experiencing severe symptoms—like ongoing sleep problems, stomachaches, or refusal to attend school—consult a counselor or your pediatrician for extra support.

With reassurance, preparation, and lots of listening, you can turn back-to-school anxiety into a season of growth and resilience for your child.